10 ways to tell if youre confident or arrogant

10 ways to tell if you're confident â€" or arrogant 10 ways to tell if you're confident - or arrogant There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance. This is especially true given both entail a strong belief in one’s own abilities. When it comes to the responses they provoke, however, that’s where the similarities end.Related from Ladders Research: It’s much better to apply for a job before 10 a.m. 3 top reasons people turn down a job offer Here’s how to answer ‘What’s your biggest weakness?’ Confidence is inspiring; arrogance is a turns include pointing a finger at someone’s chest, hands on hips or waving someone off with a flick of the finger. Confidence is open and less intimidating.6. Interrupt conversations … frequentlySince arrogant people are only concerned about themselves, they’re not really listening to you. Not only are they always on the lookout for someone else to talk to, they interrupt the conversation frequently.7. Have an answer for everythingPsychologists say that arrogance is a compensation for insecurities and weaknesses. An arrogant person will rarely say, “I don’t know the answer, but I’ll find out.” Confident people admit mistakes and learn something from those experiences.8. Always one-up the other personThe other day I was speaking to someone who has a reputation for arrogance, and I noticed a common theme in his conversation with me - he always tried to one-up everything I said. For example, when the conversation turned to a docume ntary that I had recently seen on sharks, this man said, “That’s nothing, I swim with sharks.” This trait in arrogant people is so common that the famous Dilbert cartoon strip has a recurring character named “Topper.” Confident people don’t feel the need to brag. Their accomplishments do it for them.9. Blast competitorsArrogant people can’t see the strengths in their competitors, and if they do, they seek to minimize those competitors by bad-mouthing them. This simply makes the arrogant person look even smaller. I recently overheard a woman talking to a recruiter and saying vicious things about her former company as well as other companies in the industry. The recruiter listened patiently. When the woman left, I leaned over and asked the recruiter what he thought. He simply rolled his eyes. Take the high road so you don’t get the eye roll.10. Blame someone elseArrogant people can’t ‘fess up to their own mistakes. Watch “America’s Next Top Model” with Tyra B anks. The most arrogant young wannabes are the ones who blame others for not taking a good photograph - it’s either the fault of the photographer or the makeup artist. Needless to say, they don’t last long, even in an industry that has more than its share of divas.Some famous business leaders are unquestionably arrogant - people about whom you may have heard or for whom you work. But the vast majority of inspiring leaders are confident, not arrogant. Be a leader people want to follow and not one people would rather avoid.